Applying the Feng Shui Five Elements to Your Home

Bringing nature into our homes is a key component of the teachings of Feng Shui. The goal is to have all of the five elements of fire, earth, metal, water and wood balanced in every room of of our living space. By studying the Feng Shui Five Elements theory we can gain valuable insights as to why our lives are out of balance by looking at the elemental imbalances in our homes.

I have worked with many clients to improve their young children’s sleeping habits (see my article- Is Your Child Sleeping) along with teens who were suddenly out of control. The culprit is often found in the elemental imbalances in their bedrooms. By bringing these into balance the child or teen comes back into balance as well. Clients think I have worked magic but I am merely applying these ancient, tried and true principles (also used in Chinese medicine) to physical environments. (See my article on Teen’s Rooms)

The five elements can also be used in a powerful way to heal health issues (see my article – the Power of Color), and to assist in personal growth. If we find we are staying ‘too small’ in our lives, our environment will often reflect too little of the wood element. We would want to both wear and bring into our living space objects and colors that reflect this element as shown in the chart below.

Please see the list on the next page of what the elements mean and what we experience when we have too much or too little of them in our lives and take advantage of my free offer to send you information about working with the elements at the end of this article.

If you are feeling over expanded and overwhelmed, you are experiencing too much of the wood element. In this instance you would benefit by bringing into your living space objects and colors that represent the element that cuts wood, which is metal. An example of too much of the wood element might be found in an all-green bedroom with floral prints and wooden furniture. What you thought would be soothing actually feels overwhelming.

The metal element is represented by white and cream colors, pastels, circular shapes, rocks and stones and metal. By changing the floral bedspread to a pastel or cream color and accessorizing with whites and pastels, you will begin to bring the room back into elemental balance.

Below is a Five Elements Map that will show you how they work together to balance each other.

The elements when closest to their natural state will contain the most vibrant ‘chi’ or energy. However, there are colors, objects and shapes that represent these elements as well. Some are subtle and some more obvious. A tall cylindrical shape (reminding us of a tree) represents the wood element, along with medium blues and greens, anything made of wood, plants and trees and pictures of them.


Here is a short summary of what we experience when the elements are out of balance:

Wood is about growth as reflected in trees and plants. We want the right amount in our environment, not too much or too little. Too much wood = over-expansion and overwhelm. Too little=staying too small. Bring in objects, shapes textures and colors of the metal element to cut the wood, or those of the water element to increase it if there is too little. See the controlling and nurturing cycles of the chart.

Fire is about passion. Too much, however will result in aggression and overly impulsive behavior. Too little will reflect as lack of enthusiasm, motivation and warmth. Add water to douse the fire when there is too much and wood to increase the fire when there is too little.

Earth is about staying grounded and being present. Too much= overly discipline and conservative. Too little= spacey, ungrounded as well as infertility issues. Add fire to increase it when there is too little and wood to decrease it when there is too much.

Metal is about mental clarity and determination. Too much= rigidity and inability to compromise. Too little=lack of back bone and indecisiveness. Add earth to increase it and fire to melt it when there is too much. There is a reason those who live in all- white houses tend to also be rigid… bring in fire and warm it up!

Water is about connection to spirit and synchronicity in our lives. Too much= not enough structure and being ‘wishy-washy’. Too little =the need to dominate, lack of flow and connection to spirit. Add metal to increase it and earth to dam it up when there is too much. (See this example in my article the Power of Color)

Please note that you can also just take away items in a particular element to decrease the amount of it in a space, or add it when you need more, you do not necessarily have to use the elements that either control it or nurture it.

I encourage you to learn more about these powerful concepts and utilize this powerful knowledge if you or your loved ones are experiences any of the imbalances as described above. I have seen profound shifts in my own life and those of my clients when applying these tried and true, age-tested principles that come out of the ancient practice of Chinese medicine and Feng Shui.

I am offering my readers a free copy of my color Five Elements Map along with more information on the Feng Shui Five Elements . Please click here if you would like your own free copy – PDF format.

Enjoy!

Erica Sofrina is an internationally acclaimed speaker, teacher, consultant and author and the founder of the West Coast Academy of Feng Shui. She is known for her ability to translate Feng Shui into terms that are easy to understand and apply for western audiences.


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The Power of Music

This article really hit home for me.  We recently lost my grandmother and my mother-in-law to Alzheimers.  I believe the more information we can get out to the general public about how to help the people suffering with this horrible disease, the better.
Music has always been a huge part of my life and I believe it definitely has healing effects.  It is with great pleasure that I share this article with my readers.....

Music can literally work wonders for people with Parkinson’s, dementia, or strokes. A leading music therapist talks about how caregivers can make the best use of it.

Camille Peri, Caring.com features editor

A man in his late 60s has a stroke and loses his speech. After two years of intense speech therapy, he still can’t talk. From a treatment standpoint, he’s considered “hopeless.”

A music therapist hears him singing a few words — all that he can get out — of “Ol’ Man River” and begins singing with him or accompanying him on the accordion a few times a week. Within two months, he’s crooning that entire song, and others, and has begun to recover his speech.

If it sounds like something you’d read in a book by Oliver Sacks — the neurologist whose work with near-catatonic “sleeping sickness” survivors was the basis for his book and later the film Awakenings – it is. The music therapist was Sacks’s longtime colleague Concetta Tomaino, and the story is one he recounts in Musicophilia: Tales of Music and the Brain.

With strong interests in both medicine and music, Tomaino earned a doctorate in music therapy from New York University at a time when “music programs” in nursing homes existed mostly to kill time, and there was little research on music’s relationship with the brain. For the last 30 years, she’s been in the forefront of the field, demonstrating how song can change the way we see and treat people with dementia, stroke, Parkinson’s, and brain damage — people whom other therapies have often failed to reach.

Tomaino’s work shows music’s profound ability to help recover memory and speech and improve physical movement and attention. On a simpler level, she says, music can be used to address daily caregiving challenges, such as coaxing a stubborn family member with Alzheimer’s or calming a nervous one.
Tomaino is cofounder and director of the Institute for Music and Neurologic Function (where Sacks is the honorary medical advisor) and vice president for Music Therapy Services at Beth Abraham Family of Health Services.
She spoke with Caring.com about how music therapy works, how caregivers can use it, and why music is the last memory to go. She also offered advice on using music early on to help people with Alzheimer’s as the disease progresses.

What motivated you to do music therapy with elderly people?

I felt a mission for people with Alzheimer’s who, I felt, were being ignored in nursing homes. I saw dramatic responses in them through music, and I felt it was important for others to know that a level of engagement and quality of life was still possible even for people in the end stages of dementia.

As I started to learn which music would awaken or allow somebody with severe dementia to respond, that song became my contact song with that person. I knew that when I played it, Mary or Sarah would open her eyes, look at me, and start to smile, and it would be the beginning of our relationship together. I learned that the more their attention was engaged and the more they responded, the more other pieces of their behavior and their personality started coming out.

Then 20 years or so ago, when I was working with people recovering from strokes who had, say, lost their speech, it became apparent that if I could get them to sing, their ability to retrieve words and speak words, even when not singing, was enhanced. In the past ten years or so, we’ve been researching this more closely to develop a protocol that would consistently have that effect.

Can you explain that in more detail?

If you’re trying to get someone with a traumatic brain injury or a stroke or Alzheimer’s to walk, and you tell them, “Lift your legs and walk like this,” it’s a difficult concept for them. And if they have to plan how the left foot is moving in relation to the right foot, they have to think about where their body is in space and how to lift up their leg and put it down, and take steps.

However, when they’re doing this to music, the rhythm provides the structure within which they move. And because they’re following the music, they’re not thinking about lifting each leg individually. It’s almost as if they’re using past memories of how to move with music.

Is familiar music the most effective for people with Alzheimer’s?

It is if you’d like to connect to them personally and facilitate memory. However, if you want to just work on balance or attention or increased physical activity, then the music doesn’t have to be familiar. It just has to be attention-getting, usually something with a very dynamic tempo.

For example, some of our residents have never experienced reggae music, but a lot of our staff comes from the islands, and when they put on reggae or calypso or salsa, people will feel like moving because the rhythm itself is energizing. Many times we use music that the staff likes to move to because it helps them interact with patients a lot better, and so the patients get a double benefit.

For triggering memory, do people respond best to songs from their childhood, like lullabies, or songs from their teen or adult years?

There’s quite a bit of research on the music people seem to remember best. If you don’t know someone’s favorite song, the rule of thumb is to think about the popular songs when they were young adults — late teens to mid-20s — because that seems to be the music that identifies a generation, and people who go to dances and socialize and date usually do so to the music of that period of their lives, before they get married and are inundated with adult responsibilities.

The other reason why music stays in somebody’s memory is because of the emotional and historical aspects that are connected to it, both positive and negative. One of my patients was a man who had dementia and multiple strokes and was not verbal for several years. The song that got to him and got him to speak again was a Yiddish lullaby that he used to sing to his children every night. So even though it may not have been in his “age group,” it was a bonding song for him and his children.

That’s where the importance of the music emotionally and historically — a wedding song, the first song you danced to — becomes key. It can be a gateway to triggering a memory, even if the person can’t articulate what that memory was.

It reminds me of the lyrics from “Stardust” — the singer says that when he thinks of a certain song, “I am once again with you, when our love was new and each kiss an inspiration.”

I worked with one woman who had a stroke and was depressed and wasn’t doing well in rehab. Her daughters were very concerned about her because they knew that unless she could do rehab, she’d never come home. The day that the woman came to my studio, she said that when she woke up that morning, a certain Nelson Eddie song was going through her head, and she started singing it.

I happened to have a recording of the operetta that this particular song was from. So we listened to the song and at the end, she said to me, “That was our song.” She and her husband were dating and had fallen in love when that song was popular. And then he was overseas during the war, and whenever they heard the song, they thought about each other — it was their way of connecting.

Well, her husband had just died when she had a heart attack, and she thought that it was him

calling her to join him in heaven. So she didn’t want to recover from the heart attack and the stroke that happened after the surgery. She was distancing herself from rehab because the song was going in her head and she was supposed to join her husband, and she was content with that and struggling with it at the same time.

When she was able to articulate what that song meant to her, we talked about how she still had her children and had these memories, which were wonderful, and that it’s OK to be alive and to fight to be well. And when she was able to process all of that, it became a gateway for her recovery.

How does music therapy work for people with late-stage Alzheimer’s?

When somebody is nonverbal and seems to have minimal awareness, exposure to a song that we know to be personally important to that person can improve attention or awareness over time.

I remember one female patient who was nonverbal. Her kids told me that she was born in Ireland and spent a little time there and liked all those Irish-American songs. So I remember playing “It’s a Long Way to Tipperary” and her eyes would open up and she would smile and there was this twinkle of recognition. And the more I played that song, she more would say things like, “You know, it’s a beautiful place.” And I’d say, “What place?” And she’d say, “County Cork.” You could hear in her voice that there were memories that were being triggered.

Did playing music have any long-term effects with late-stage Alzheimer’s patients?

The long-term positive effect was that when they were engaged for longer periods of time, that attention would carry over to other things, like being able to eat better. So after a music session, if they were sitting at lunch and there was food on the table, they would recognize not only that there was food on the table but they could engage with the person feeding them for 15 or 20 minutes during lunch, as opposed to constantly getting distracted and not knowing what was going on.

On the negative side, sometimes when people become more aware, this can be upsetting because all of a sudden they realize they aren’t at home.

Does music work differently for people with early-stage Alzheimer’s?

Improving memory is possible if music is used early. Repetition and the consistency of hearing the words to music facilitates memory function in people with early to mid-stage Alzheimer’s.

What is your music advice to people with Alzheimer’s and their caregivers?

I do a lot of talks to caregivers for the Alzheimer’s Association. I suggest that when you first get diagnosed — or even without a diagnosis, if you’re just thinking about leaving a legacy for your kids — start collecting songs that have meaning to you. With computers and iPods and MP3 players, you can have a pretty extensive music library — music that makes you feel relaxed, or that reminds you of that trip to Italy you took for your 25th wedding anniversary.

Those types of songs, especially when paired with photos, reinforce the images and the memories so strongly early on that later, at the point when a person can’t identify the content of the photo anymore, or can’t identify objects or faces, those relationships will still be felt and experienced when they hear the music.

Even if you don’t know, as the caregiver, that they are experiencing that?

That’s right. Chances are they are. And you’ll see it in their eyes for sure.

Can caregivers to people with Alzheimer’s use music to help get through other daily activities, as you did with eating?

Dressing and bathing can be an issue, so finding music or creating an environment that allows the person to feel calm and relaxed is very important to precede that activity. I knew one man who could never get his wife out of her chair to take a shower. But they used to love to dance together and loved Duke Ellington and swing music, so anytime he needed to toilet her or bathe her, he’d say, “Come on, hon, let’s dance for a little while,” and he’d literally dance her to the bathroom.

So it can be very helpful to find that music early on that allows for those experiences and facilitates movement when you feel like you’re fighting against somebody who’s very rigid. Using it becomes like a ritual, almost.

Because people with Alzheimer’s can also wander when they get restless at night, playing music can help them relax and not feel as stressed. Any music that they find relaxing works — usually something that’s not very rhythmic or jarring — because a sense of urgency, that they need to get up and go someplace, is usually part of the problem.

If somebody has a paid care provider, they should be clued into these things as well.

What kind of music can help people with Parkinson’s move better?

The song “Walkin’ My Baby Back Home” has a very good rhythm for walking. And if the person can sing it himself, he can actually stimulate the same motor timing mechanisms as if he were hearing it from the outside. So you can self-generate these motor rhythms.

There’s been lots of research about using a metronomic beat. If you have a steady beat at a certain rate, people with Parkinson’s and strokes will step in time to that beat. However, one of the tricks of Parkinson’s is that the person has to feel the beat and the anticipation of the beat. Some people don’t feel the pulse, so many times I’ve had to play around with rhythms. It could be a rhythm with the accent on the upbeat, like an Irish jig. Or salsa or Latin, where there are multiple beats, because that helps them know where the main beat is going to fall.

The main idea is to try different types of music — popular music or dance music — and have the person with Parkinson’s tell you which gives him the impetus to move. There are also some existing walking tapes for Parkinson’s.

How long does the effect of music last with Parkinson’s?

It lasts as long as the person is listening to the music. They’ll walk for longer periods of time, not get into that shuffle or hesitation, if they’re listening to music. The other thing is that because they’re walking better and with more regularity, the integrity of their muscles is better, and there’s a reduction of spasms and the other things that happen when they keep getting stuck.

Can music also help people with Parkinson’s improve their speech?

Yes. Because many people with Parkinson’s tend to become very weak in their speech, or speed their speech so it’s unintelligible, you can use singing and articulation within singing to maximize intelligibility and volume. People tend to sing louder than they speak because they’re using a lot more diaphragm support. So early on in the Parkinson’s diagnosis, encourage people to sing to exercise the vocal folds, which tend to become weak and tight.

Was there a body of scientific research on the effectiveness of music therapy when you first began doing it?

When I first started, it was really frustrating to me that there wasn’t any information I could get my hands on. Even in 1988, they didn’t have human models of music memory! I wish I had known that there were a few people doing brain imaging of music perception, but that information just wasn’t available back then, or if it was, it was in some obscure library.

Now, when we can readily learn about people’s discoveries as they happen, scientists and clinicians can interact quickly. That’s made me focus on how important it is to get this information out to the public.

So, without the backing of research, what kind of music programs were there for patients when you first began working in the dementia unit of a nursing home?

It was felt that the people in this unit couldn’t respond to anything and weren’t aware of anything, so all you could do was make them comfortable — which back then meant medicating them so they weren’t agitated. Music activities were done to the patient and not with them.

I can remember an activity person pulling somebody’s hand to start swinging it to the music, with no realization that this person could be engaged in a gentler way or was perhaps annoyed by the music. I remember the recreation people saying, “You can’t work with them anyway, so why even bother?”

Is your message getting through to the medical community?

We often have first-year medical students come through to do geriatric rounds. I was leading a session once in a long-term unit where, if you just walked in, you would have thought, “These people don’t know what’s going on.”

There was one woman whose arms were contracted and she was very stiff in her wheelchair and her head was back and she was blind. Your first impression of her would be that she had dementia. But I knew that she loved spirituals and she would always sing “When the Saints Go Marching In.”

So I played that song and sure enough, she was singing along and engaged, and as she was singing, you could see that she didn’t have dementia at all; she was just blind and contracted. She was actually very intelligent and very easy to engage — you just had to make that connection initially and then all that interaction could take place.

One of the medical students said, “If I was doing her exam, I never would have spoken to her.” It’s a matter of developing that recognition that you can’t assume anything about somebody just because of how they look or because of your biases about Alzheimer’s or strokes. Never assume somebody’s not there or they don’t know what’s going on. Try to find that gateway and that connection.

The Power of Music originally appeared on Caring.com.

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Non-Toxic Nail Polish

The more natural I go with skin care, the more natural I go with everything I put on my body. My latest green switch is nail care. I am a big fan of painted nails. In my jewelry career, that was limited to my toes, as it was pointless to paint my fingernails – they were never long and were in constant use.


I was watching a rerun of my favorite guilty pleasure, Gilmore Girls, and Lorelai’s nails were painted this great fire-engine red. This was about a week before Christmas and I thought, “Perfect!” I ran to my bathroom, got my fave O.P.I. red and started to paint. Then, I noticed the smell. My husband has what we like to call “dog nose” (thanks to a funny line in an even funnier book, Diary of a Mad Mom-to-Be by Laura Wolf). This affliction causes him to smell things more deeply and strongly and than the rest of us, especially me. Problem is, I seem to have contracted it as well in the few months since we moved back to the states, and the nail polish was seriously making me feel like I was going to loose my lunch. And the kicker? It wouldn’t dry. Ever. I think it was the rain.

Whatever the cause, after four hours trying to dry in the evening and a sleepless night spent with my nails sticking to my flannel sheets, I got up and removed the perfect red that was now all smudged and still not dry. The lacquer/formaldehyde smell stuck with me through the night and my nails felt a little bit like someone was trying to peel them off. I’ve known for years that nail polish and standard polish remover is not terribly healthy for us and even less healthy for the environment, and I’d been thinking for a while that I needed to switch. But would non-toxic colors really last? Would they come in the shades I like? Would plain old alcohol really remove them?

Image from http://www.tinker.com/

Hence began my search for non-toxic nail polish. I’ve been more aware of healthier lacquer since I attended the Women In Green Forum this past September, but haven’t been painting my nails much (or at all, really) and haven’t had the right impetus to pursue researching it. Until now.

There are lots of brands out there that say they are all-natural or non-toxic, and there is no chemical-free nail polish (that I could find – tell me if I’m wrong!) on the market, but there are three ingredients you are looking to avoid:

1. Dibutyl phthalate (DBP)

2. Formaldehyde (yes, seriously. In your nail polish.)

3. Toluene

These three have been linked to problems ranging from skin irritation in people to birth defects in animals.

Polishes that exclude all three of the above-listed chemicals:

1. Piggy Paint, non-toxic, odorless, kid-friendly, kid-colored, water-based formula.

2. Honeybee Gardens, an alternative to solvent-based nail polish, water-based, odorless, removes with rubbing alcohol.

 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
3. No-Miss, does not contain the three-to-avoid above, and also does not contain camphor.


4. Acquarella, water-based system of nail polish, conditioner, remover and moisturizer.

5. Suncoat, water-based nail polish that has been recognized and honored from the Canadian Health Food Association Expo.

6. Gaiam, Created by New York City’s first organic spa, our non toxic nail polish is free of known carcinogens.

7. Peacekeeper Cause-Metics, created by the Environmental Working Group as the safest paint-based natural nail polish.

8. Sante, created without the use of formaldehydes, toluene, and colophony rosin.

9. Nubar, carcinogen-free nail care products.

10. Safe Nail Polish, non-toxic, oderless, made in the USA.

11. Priti, non-toxic, made without the evil-three and all know carcinogenic ingredients.

12. Spa Ritual, vegan nail lacquers.

 
Having done my research, I was eager to try some out! I looked at several of the brands for the colors I wanted: fire-engine red; palest of pinks like you’d use for a french manicure; and dark purple-almost black, but not true black. I found what I thought I was looking for at Honeybee Gardens online, and ordered all three colors. Once delivered, the only one that was what I wanted was the light pink, but I saved the other two to give as gifts. I found the red I was looking for by No-Miss in the RWC Whole Foods, and am still on the lookout for the not-quite-black. I recommend buying polish you can see in the store, online photos and different computer screens make it difficult to tell what color you’re really getting.


So how well does the polish hold up and does it really come off with just rubbing alcohol? Fabulously well! And Yes! I gave myself a full mani-pedi on Sunday, and had to remove the last of the pink polish. I used plain old generic rubbing alcohol, probably from Walgreen’s, and cotton swabs (once my bag of swabs is done, I will switch to using cotton rags in stead of disposable cotton balls). I had to rub a little longer to remove all the polish, but there was no stink! Not from the remover or the polish – Honeybee Gardens and No-Miss both state they are fragrance-free and while they do have a slight odor, it is insignificant and doesn’t smell like toxic paint.

As for the staying power, I have a chip on one nail, but I’ve done dishes, washed a car and moved some furniture since Sunday and I’m impressed with how great the paint looks and stays on. I’m a convert for sure.

-Jocelyn Broyles


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