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8/24/2010
8/20/2010
Laser Thinking, as presented by Hyrum Smith
Natural Laws are fundamental patterns of nature and life that human experience has shown to be valid.
Law #1: A successful business person is willing to do that which the unsuccessful business person is not willing to do.
Law #2: Wisdom is knowledge rightly applied.
Law #3: Time is the occurance of events in sequence one after the other.
Law #4: Management is the act of controlling.
Law #5: Time Management is the act of controlling events.
What do I control?
Law #6: The Effects of Conditioning:
1) There are events we can control, but we believe we can't.
2) There are events we cannot control, but we believe we can.
Law #7: Inner Peace is having serenity, balance and harmony in our lives achieved through the appropriate control of events.
Law #8: The objective of good time management is inner peace.
Law #9: The result of good time management is high self-esteem.
Law #10: A goal is a planned for event.
Law #11: When a goal is valued it become a priority.
Law #12: When goals are valued together, prioritizing is taking place.
Law #13: Prioritizing is the process of determining the precedence of events.
Ask yourself these questions:
1) What are the highest priorities in my life?
2) Of these priorities, which do I value the most?
Law #14: Planning is the process of determining future events.
QUESTION: Why don't people plan?
ANSWER: They don't have enough time...
This is not the actual truth. What they are really saying is that they value something else more.
Two Fallacies of Time
1) Somehow I'm going to get more of it.
2) Somehow I'm going to save it.
Commitment: I will spend 10-15 minutes every single day planning my day.
Three Steps to Effective Daily Planning
1) Identify all of the tasks I want to accomplish today.
2) Give a value to each task.
a) Vital - must be done.
b) Important - should be done.
c) Trivial - could be done.
3) Give a numerical value to each item on the list. (ex: a1,b2,c1)
REMEMBER: Vital does not equal Urgent
What is your timeline?
Six Steps
Step 1: Identify my governing values (my highest priorities)
Law #15: When my daily activities are in concert with my highest priorities, I have a claim to inner peace.
Step 2: Identify my Long Range Goals
Law #16: Governing values are a description of who I am.
Law #17: Goals are what I'm doing about who I am.
Step 3: Identify your Intermediate Goals
Step 4: Create your prioritized daily task list.
Step 5: Create a compelling score card.
Step 6: Hold yourself accountable.
Law #18: There is no chance, no destiny, no fate that can circumvent or hinder or control the firm resolve of a determined soul.
Law #1: A successful business person is willing to do that which the unsuccessful business person is not willing to do.
Law #2: Wisdom is knowledge rightly applied.
Law #3: Time is the occurance of events in sequence one after the other.
Law #4: Management is the act of controlling.
Law #5: Time Management is the act of controlling events.
What do I control?
Law #6: The Effects of Conditioning:
1) There are events we can control, but we believe we can't.
2) There are events we cannot control, but we believe we can.
Law #7: Inner Peace is having serenity, balance and harmony in our lives achieved through the appropriate control of events.
Law #8: The objective of good time management is inner peace.
Law #9: The result of good time management is high self-esteem.
Law #10: A goal is a planned for event.
Law #11: When a goal is valued it become a priority.
Law #12: When goals are valued together, prioritizing is taking place.
Law #13: Prioritizing is the process of determining the precedence of events.
Ask yourself these questions:
1) What are the highest priorities in my life?
2) Of these priorities, which do I value the most?
Law #14: Planning is the process of determining future events.
QUESTION: Why don't people plan?
ANSWER: They don't have enough time...
This is not the actual truth. What they are really saying is that they value something else more.
Two Fallacies of Time
1) Somehow I'm going to get more of it.
2) Somehow I'm going to save it.
Commitment: I will spend 10-15 minutes every single day planning my day.
Three Steps to Effective Daily Planning
1) Identify all of the tasks I want to accomplish today.
2) Give a value to each task.
a) Vital - must be done.
b) Important - should be done.
c) Trivial - could be done.
3) Give a numerical value to each item on the list. (ex: a1,b2,c1)
REMEMBER: Vital does not equal Urgent
What is your timeline?
Six Steps
Step 1: Identify my governing values (my highest priorities)
Law #15: When my daily activities are in concert with my highest priorities, I have a claim to inner peace.
Step 2: Identify my Long Range Goals
Law #16: Governing values are a description of who I am.
Law #17: Goals are what I'm doing about who I am.
Step 3: Identify your Intermediate Goals
Step 4: Create your prioritized daily task list.
Step 5: Create a compelling score card.
Step 6: Hold yourself accountable.
Law #18: There is no chance, no destiny, no fate that can circumvent or hinder or control the firm resolve of a determined soul.
8/16/2010
Our Quest for Happiness by Frank Vandersloot
I believe that a factor that is often overlooked in our search for happiness is the tremendous impact that our own moral compass has on our happiness. We all seem to have a moral compass--something inside of us that tells us what is morally "right" and what is morally "wrong". It's something that is inside each of us. When we live and act within the boundaries of our moral compass, we have peace of mind. When we find ourselves living or acting outside the boundaries of our moral compass, we don't like ourselves. And when we don't like ourselves we can never be happy. I suspect that this phenomenon has the greatest impact on our happiness. Liking who we are is, I believe, the most important aspect of finding happiness. I have often imagined a man standing in front of a mirror when he is 90 years old and saying to the person in the mirror, "I know you. I know everything about you. I know everything you've ever done. I know every thought you've ever had. I know every mistake you've ever made. And I know what you have done to try to correct those things. And therefore I like you. And I trust you!" I think that would be the ultimate test of our lives. If we can pass that test, we will have passed the test of life. We will like ourselves. And we will have lived a happy life.
8/06/2010
100 Ways to Connect With Your Teens
By: Debra Hapenny Ciavola, Ph.D.
1. View adolescence as an adventure.
2. Respect their privacy.
3. Create family times around activities they enjoy.
4. Keep the delicate balance between holding on and letting go.
5. Understand the nature of the adolescent beast.
6. Take advantage of an unexpected connection.
7. Bite your tongue.
8. Don’t take their chaotic behavior or mood swings personally.
9. Help them discover their spirituality.
10.Catch them doing something right and praise them.
11. Influence your teens’ decision making, but don’t say “I forbid.”
12. Give privileges with age and responsibility.
13. Be their mentor and ally.
14. Guide them, not manage them.
15. Be clear about expectations and the consequences for not meeting those expectations.
16. Be your teen’s advocate.
17. Show true interest in their activities.
18. Expect miracles.
19. Be their parent. Teens do want rules, limits, and questions from you.
20. If your can’t police, monitor or enforce a rule, don’t have it.
21. Watch the little rules that poison relationships.
22. Spend time alone with your teen.
23. Ask open ended question, such as “What are you learning in your history class?”
24. Encourage them to talk it out.
25. Actively supervise your teen’s exposure to media violence.
26. Acknowledge your teen’s fears, even if you do not agree with them.
27. Control your own behavior.
28. Talk about gangs and cliques.
29. Allow them safe and healthy outlets for their energy.
30. Use “I” statements rather than “You”.
31. Enforce the important stuff, not the little stuff.
32. Seek to understand what your teen is really saying rather than reacting.
33. Share something personal that relates to your years as a teen.
34. Avoid giving unwanted advice.
35. Discuss personal matters on sex and fears.
36. Give your teen the impression that you trust them to do what is right.
37. Listen patiently to your teen’s reasons for wanting to do something.
38. Connect with your teen. Reflect on your adolescence.
39. Avoid lecturing.
40. Be someone they can believe in.
41. Make your home a place where teens want to hang out.
42. Talk less about the media and more about real heroes in our country.
43. Make a list of ten things you like about your teen and tell them.
44. Teach them how to be compassionate, empathetic, and fair.
45. Show compassion to other teenagers.
46. Keep your face relaxed when they are telling you something you don’t want to hear.
47. Talk about drinking and its consequences. Make your expectations known.
48. Help them establish their own autonomy while maintaining a loving relationship with you.
49. Support your teen’s interests and encourage in their accomplishments.
50. Have regular family meetings in which the whole family talks things over and makes decisions together.
51. Ask what worries them most about their future.
52. Use natural and logical consequences, so discipline makes sense.
53. When they come home from an event ask, “How did you show good character?”
54. Teach respect for life in all forms.
55. Ask if they would like to go out to eat, run an errand, or go shopping with you.
56. Show up to watch them in their activities. Clap loudly.
57. Talk to their friends, learn their names, and let them confide in you.
58. Work together in community activities.
59. Learn more about their world.
60. Believe they can make a difference and be a success.
61. Admit when you are wrong. Be able to say, “I’m sorry.”
62. Hug them often.
63. Say, “I love you. I’m proud of you.”
64. Show your teen respect.
65. Eat dinner together four to five days a week.
66. Never berate or belittle teens in front of their friends or peers.
67. Ask their opinions.
68. Give them room to breath to balance independence with dependence.
69. Set standards in clothing while still allowing them to express themselves.
70. Talk to your teen when there is not a problem.
71. Listen carefully to what is being said as well as what is not.
72. Have daily conversations.
73. Share your concerns rather than being the undercover cop.
74. Keep the discussions with your teen confidential unless they are involved with something dangerous.
75. Follow through on promises.
76. Allow your teen to take responsibility when you see them handling it well.
77. Forgive your teen when they make a mistake.
78. Negotiate new challenges.
79. Give your teen increasing autonomy (even if it kills you).
80. Accept all of your teen’s feelings as long as they are respectfully conveyed.
81. Schedule times to talk about unappealing topics. Do not catch them on the fly.
82. Focus on what your teen did right before offering constructive criticism.
83. Make more statements rather than asking questions.
84. Talk to your teenager rather than at them.
85. Don’t over-react.
86. Accept they will have moody behavior and teach them how to deal with it.
87. Allow them to make decisions about their own lives whenever possible.
88. Remember you are in the process of “people-making.”
89. Express words of appreciation.
90. Listen with your heart.
91. Help them develop a sense of humor by telling funny stories of your day.
92. Enforce mutually acceptable behavior standards.
93. Listen to the whole story before you react.
94. Use natural and logical consequences when a boundary is broken.
95. Cook together or teach them how to cook.
96. Wait up until they come home.
97. Talk in the dark after the house is quiet and they are before you give advice.
99. Discover a shared passion together.
100.Remember, children become who you predict them to be.
1. View adolescence as an adventure.
2. Respect their privacy.
3. Create family times around activities they enjoy.
4. Keep the delicate balance between holding on and letting go.
5. Understand the nature of the adolescent beast.
6. Take advantage of an unexpected connection.
7. Bite your tongue.
8. Don’t take their chaotic behavior or mood swings personally.
9. Help them discover their spirituality.
10.Catch them doing something right and praise them.
11. Influence your teens’ decision making, but don’t say “I forbid.”
12. Give privileges with age and responsibility.
13. Be their mentor and ally.
14. Guide them, not manage them.
15. Be clear about expectations and the consequences for not meeting those expectations.
16. Be your teen’s advocate.
17. Show true interest in their activities.
18. Expect miracles.
19. Be their parent. Teens do want rules, limits, and questions from you.
20. If your can’t police, monitor or enforce a rule, don’t have it.
21. Watch the little rules that poison relationships.
22. Spend time alone with your teen.
23. Ask open ended question, such as “What are you learning in your history class?”
24. Encourage them to talk it out.
25. Actively supervise your teen’s exposure to media violence.
26. Acknowledge your teen’s fears, even if you do not agree with them.
27. Control your own behavior.
28. Talk about gangs and cliques.
29. Allow them safe and healthy outlets for their energy.
30. Use “I” statements rather than “You”.
31. Enforce the important stuff, not the little stuff.
32. Seek to understand what your teen is really saying rather than reacting.
33. Share something personal that relates to your years as a teen.
34. Avoid giving unwanted advice.
35. Discuss personal matters on sex and fears.
36. Give your teen the impression that you trust them to do what is right.
37. Listen patiently to your teen’s reasons for wanting to do something.
38. Connect with your teen. Reflect on your adolescence.
39. Avoid lecturing.
40. Be someone they can believe in.
41. Make your home a place where teens want to hang out.
42. Talk less about the media and more about real heroes in our country.
43. Make a list of ten things you like about your teen and tell them.
44. Teach them how to be compassionate, empathetic, and fair.
45. Show compassion to other teenagers.
46. Keep your face relaxed when they are telling you something you don’t want to hear.
47. Talk about drinking and its consequences. Make your expectations known.
48. Help them establish their own autonomy while maintaining a loving relationship with you.
49. Support your teen’s interests and encourage in their accomplishments.
50. Have regular family meetings in which the whole family talks things over and makes decisions together.
51. Ask what worries them most about their future.
52. Use natural and logical consequences, so discipline makes sense.
53. When they come home from an event ask, “How did you show good character?”
54. Teach respect for life in all forms.
55. Ask if they would like to go out to eat, run an errand, or go shopping with you.
56. Show up to watch them in their activities. Clap loudly.
57. Talk to their friends, learn their names, and let them confide in you.
58. Work together in community activities.
59. Learn more about their world.
60. Believe they can make a difference and be a success.
61. Admit when you are wrong. Be able to say, “I’m sorry.”
62. Hug them often.
63. Say, “I love you. I’m proud of you.”
64. Show your teen respect.
65. Eat dinner together four to five days a week.
66. Never berate or belittle teens in front of their friends or peers.
67. Ask their opinions.
68. Give them room to breath to balance independence with dependence.
69. Set standards in clothing while still allowing them to express themselves.
70. Talk to your teen when there is not a problem.
71. Listen carefully to what is being said as well as what is not.
72. Have daily conversations.
73. Share your concerns rather than being the undercover cop.
74. Keep the discussions with your teen confidential unless they are involved with something dangerous.
75. Follow through on promises.
76. Allow your teen to take responsibility when you see them handling it well.
77. Forgive your teen when they make a mistake.
78. Negotiate new challenges.
79. Give your teen increasing autonomy (even if it kills you).
80. Accept all of your teen’s feelings as long as they are respectfully conveyed.
81. Schedule times to talk about unappealing topics. Do not catch them on the fly.
82. Focus on what your teen did right before offering constructive criticism.
83. Make more statements rather than asking questions.
84. Talk to your teenager rather than at them.
85. Don’t over-react.
86. Accept they will have moody behavior and teach them how to deal with it.
87. Allow them to make decisions about their own lives whenever possible.
88. Remember you are in the process of “people-making.”
89. Express words of appreciation.
90. Listen with your heart.
91. Help them develop a sense of humor by telling funny stories of your day.
92. Enforce mutually acceptable behavior standards.
93. Listen to the whole story before you react.
94. Use natural and logical consequences when a boundary is broken.
95. Cook together or teach them how to cook.
96. Wait up until they come home.
97. Talk in the dark after the house is quiet and they are before you give advice.
99. Discover a shared passion together.
100.Remember, children become who you predict them to be.
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